Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues. But these modern-day assumptions are wrong.
Couples who stay together do what is necessary to make the marriage a happy one. They find out what brings their partner happiness and then do it often.
Marriage does matter. After all, we’re all in this together. As members of society, we count on each other every day to keep our commitments. We feel more secure when we can depend on others.
Although marriage has changed a great deal (see A Snapshot of Marriage in the U.S.), the benefits of marriage endure. Social science research confirms that marriage is an important social good that brings a wide range of positive outcomes for adults and children alike.